A New Decade.

On my vision board, there is a post-it note with a list of things that I want to buy in the near future. This list includes the following:

  1. Lego set
  2. Plants for my desk (purchased)
  3. A bronze Buddha figurine
  4. Jack Gilbert’s Collections
  5. Wonder Woman action figure
  6. Forest-green ceramic coffee mug (purchased)
  7. A wolf figurine
  8. A swirling dervish figurine

Another list includes the names of birds that I find poetic or intriguing:

  1. Blackcap
  2. Chaffinch
  3. Goldcrest
  4. Chiffchaff
  5. Song thrush
  6. Yellow Hammer

I look at these two lists on the many occasions while I contemplate upon the next sentence or when I need to rest my eyes after having stared at the laptop screen for long. Each time, I go through the entire list, reading without sound, feeling my tongue and lips move as they form the birds’ names. Without a moment’s delay, a thought comes up, a thought that resembles happiness in its texture, feeling, and form. By the time I go back to work, I have imagined an alternate world where birds frolic without being compared, hunted, or caged.

As I enter into a transitory period between my twenties and thirties, I have an urge to acknowledge the past, address it with respect, and seek closure wherever there is resistance. In a way, I am trying to tie the loose ends as one does at the end of a knitting project, bringing the shapeless fragments into a single unit, which then is given a name, and if lucky, is given a purpose to serve. So too is the project that I have taken in my hands, as I go through the last few months of the decade, listing down and accomplishing what I had been putting off.

I call this new list “Connection with or Acceptance of Myself” and at the moment, it has twenty one items, while more can be added to it in the near future. Although these items have taken the form of an action in the outer world, many of them contribute to a sense of integrity, independence, and strength to my inner world. I suppose, I am standing up for myself, calling out to the universe to help me and acknowledge what I want. In the realm of the stars and planets, the world is witnessing movement – planets retracing their paths and coming back to an earlier held position – and it seems individual lives are moving in tandem as well.

For the most part, I am committing the next six months to self-preservation as trees prepare themselves for the winter and then spring. I remember when I left a career promising of riches, success, and growth to devote attention to my mental health. In the interim, I changed my career path to teach and write. Both, although not yet monetarily rewarding, have suited my temperament well, and have been fulfilling. So too is my progress in health – physical and mental – with a nourishing social circle, exercise, meditation, and food. I have not only enjoyed solitude but have deliberately created artist-dates to encourage this blossoming friendship with the various interests within me. To that I have committed to stand in front of as many artworks as possible whether performances by individuals or by nature herself. Without the necessity to prove in a professional environment, I have been preserving my energy to things I value. Perhaps, it is the result of this investment that I know about myself more than ever before, my interests, preferences, likes, and desires.

As days move away and bring me closer to a new decade in my life, I find it necessary and pressing on my part to dedicate to pursuits that drive me onward. This word has become a favourite. Onward – its promise of a direction as decided by the chooser; that onward could be any direction one wants to take. I know my direction even if it is slow or has more turns and rest stops. From here, I will look at the chaffinches and song thrushes and hear their birdsongs.

On Libraries.

Lately I have been spending my time in libraries.

I choose the portion of a desk protected by wood screens on its sides, an asylum for those prone to sensitivity and nervousness upon exposure. Unlike my personal work-desk, which is stocked with stationery, potted plants, and totems acquired at different points in time, the library desk is bereft except when occupied. It makes me think about the search for recognizable places outside our immediate. The smallest semblance brings to our disposition a desire to occupy and claim that space as ours. So is this small portion of the desk a unique piece of me in the outer world that I expect loyalty from and I identify with.

The pistachio-green desktops are inviting and stand in contrast to the ivory-coloured walls. On closer observation, the years of wear appear, one by one – a mark made with ink, a scratch and a pockmark – bringing one to the present moment, its delicate movement amidst the ordinary things. If in a word, I have to describe the order of the place, it would be summed best by the word bureaucratic. The only disorder rests among and within the books like it should. Some books having lost their front or back covers have been hardbound, and stacked with the fresher copies. Fiction, biographies, psychology, movements, media, literature, social issues, laws, religion, history, and many more brought in at different times, now are coded and classified.

On most working days, there are few visitors, mostly women, visiting for different purposes including studying, preparing lectures, and for research. I visit the library to read although on some occasions I have forced myself to study. On my last visit, I read about Ruttie Petit or as she was more popularly known, Ruttie Jinnah. At eighteen, she had married M. A. Jinnah, the founding father of Pakistan, and shared with him, a love that exalted but which also proved ruinous. She died on her 29th birth anniversary to what some believe an overdose. While in history, she is mentioned barely, as if lacking subjecthood, she was a powerful force behind Jinnah, and during the struggle for freedom.

Today Noor Zaheer’s My God is a Woman caught my eyes and I brought it out to my reading desk. I read five chapters in a little more than an hour, and when I closed the book, I read a snippet on the back cover, about the murder of a beloved character. I felt wasted, knowing as with life so with literature; loved ones live and die. There is also Ismat Chughtai’s The Crooked Line to be read- the opening scene from her childhood where she learns to discriminate between the powerful and the powerless; like we have learned as well.

Libraries themselves have been pushed away as knots, hidden between arrays of modern buildings and commercial ventures. When I read about libraries which have been defunded, a wave of depression hits me, and I writhe in pain. As a child in school, going to the library meant more rules to be observed than usual. The environment caught me in its fist to make me dislike it; fortunately, I grew up in my senses.

I found a book called The Hopes of Snakes in a library, which has now closed its doors to the public, and has restricted its functions to a bare minimum. But even then its sombre stacks offers brilliant works such as this book, which talks about the condemned birds and animals living among us in the urban landscape, some of which, we call a pest. But it is not only books that they offer.

We are in dearth of places where one need not talk or engage, where one can be let in solitude. As a culture, we promote spaces for socializing, hanging out, and too with stimulants, as if they need them. In libraries, we are quiet, ruminating upon an expression that perplexed us, or perhaps dozing, our heads resting between books. What better place for someone who enjoys reading!

A small rack holds my books, some two hundred of them, many collected in the last seven years. I keep reminding myself, I need to buy a new bookshelf. But there are no free corners in the room or in the house. I joke, these are my only possessions to pass on! Some know it to be true. Others don’t see the sense.

When I leave from the library, I have already spent five hours. And in my hand I carry a notebook with a sentence half-written, breaking open the nettled negative after a month. I come home and write it to completion.

City of Memories.

For one school year, when I was eleven, my family lived in two cities in the northern plains – one, an ancient city, which according to Hindu mythology defies time itself, and the other, a former village now galloping towards urbanization, on the brink of a new millennium. We also belonged to two large families living in a third city, on the southern coast line, but except during the summer vacations when we spent time with them, my sister and I didn’t count them as ours. This extended family included businessmen, housewives, office clerks, milkmen, watchmen, high school students, middle school students, unemployed, government employees, and retired army men. My father, a draughtsman, had removed himself from this lot when an opportunity presented itself to him, and after marrying my mother, moved to Varanasi in 1987. I was born the following year.

Varanasi is an important city to the Hindus, chiefly affirmed by the Sanskrit scriptures, which praise the city as Shiva’s and as an important pilgrim site. But, to my family, more importantly to my sister and me, we would learn much later, moving to the city was a climb out of the tight socioeconomic reality that our extended family lived under. As young children, I remember we lived a different life than that of our parents, or it was that they had created a thin separation between them and us. My sister and I frolicked in and with toys, used new stationery each school year, and wore clean clothes. We read English comics, invented games, and were oblivious that the house our parents had rented was not ours. We dreamed, while our parents worked, most of it, hard work.

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Shivala Ghat, Varanasi

When we were not at school, my sister and I spent most of our time at home with our mother. We would have her completely for us in the evenings, when she would sit us down next to her to do schoolwork; for those few hours, my sister and I pretended that we were attending evening school, our pigtails neatly made, carrying our schoolbags, making one complete circle of the room, to enter our pretend-classroom. But when mother was not available, we would pass time, playing cricket or You Can’t Touch the Wall game, an ingenious game played with a ball and a hockey stick, invented by us. Or when it was too hot and we couldn’t play, we would spy on the people walking up and down the road. On one afternoon, by chance we saw a grunge-looking man dump an empty bottle of alcohol in the vacant plot next to ours. I noted the time and remembered to be in the balcony the next day. On the second day, to our excitement, the man dumped two empty bottles of alcohol. The investigation kept us worked up, until one day the man saw us spying on him. We ran, shutting the balcony door behind us. That put an end to it.

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Chennai Central Railway Station

When the school closed for the summer break, we travelled to Madras, the city that our parents called home. This is where they said we truly belonged, but to us, the difference was not visible. Besides, we were too busy being the favourite cousins or nieces, who were to be pampered during their short stay, and who needed to be taught games and tricks. There is a picture of me with two male cousins, who were training me to play cricket with an actual leather ball. I am wearing a frilly frock in this picture, and a red bucket hat covering my shaven head, holding the heavy cricket bat in position before the wicket, with help from the older one.

But among these many cousins, I shared a particular bond with Geetha. A year older than me, she and I were firstborns oddly-paired by circumstances. She was dark-skinned with knobby joints and a large forehead. I was round, with bowed legs and dark. So, on those long summer days, the St. Bede’s Ground, with its rows of rain-trees and Indian lilacs, became our hideout, where we felt less ugly. There, dressed only in our shimmies and panties, we played marbles or dug the granular earth beneath us for finding water. We would often return home, covered in sand and dirt, and with itchy bumps on our arms and legs, bites from the red ants on the rain-trees. But we would always return the next day, and the next. Sometimes we talked.

“Does your father beat you?”

“Yes.”

“My mother doesn’t like me.”

“Mine too.”

I believed her and was believed by her in return. So, in most pictures from those years, both of us stood side by side, holding each other, by just a finger.

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When my father learned about his transfer, he waited for a year before uprooting us. Our parents sat us down one evening, and explained what was to follow, what this promotion and transfer meant for the family, and to us. At the end of the conversation, which would be the last of its kind, my sister and I believed that Gurgaon was a city of dreams, waiting to embrace us, and that we had moved upward.

“What does that mean?”

“We will have more money. We will live in a bigger house.”

“Bigger than this one?”

“Yes.”

My father moved out first. It was decided that we would have to stay back till the end of the school year. I was in the sixth grade and my sister was in the fourth. It was stressed, especially by our father that we would have to study harder and score better, if we wanted to enrol in a good school in the new city. That advice was soon forgotten, because before he left, he gave us each a hundred rupee note. My sister and I were elated, holding the crisp new bill in our hands, and imagining what we could do with it. When we asked mother, she told us to save the money. Each month, without delay, my sister and I started receiving money from our father, and we saved it in our little money-purse. In the winter, when the school introduced a wool blazer as part of the uniform, we bought them with the money that we had saved. We felt proud when we told our father about it.

I remember, one summer, for two months, my father didn’t receive his paycheque. For those two months, we had tabs running at various places including the grocery store and with the vegetable vendor. We didn’t go to Madras that year. My mother saved empty milk packets, old bottles, and scraps for selling them. I don’t remember how our parents managed but that was the first time, I thought that we were poor. So if father’s new promotion was a way out, we were excited, inside and out. And it looked so, at least for a while. When my father first returned for a short visit, he came back with a small Casio keyboard (a waste, according to mother), two brand new school bags, and a student Oxford dictionary. On his next visit, he came back empty-handed and changed.

At the end of the school year, we busied ourselves with the move. My sister and I were part of the work, but mostly, we picked up a random item and spoke from our memories, a story or two about it. There were many. There was my old baby walker, which had enabled my sister and me to walk independently and for leisure. There was the little red tricycle – another item that had been shared between us – which had lured my baby sister to stand on it, resulting in her big fall. In our house, before we used ice cubes in drinks, we had used them to reduce the bump on her head. That night, I swore to God that I will stop hating my sister and always protect her. There were many things, many memories, and many stories. Crouched over our playthings, we nodded yes or no to our parents’ questions; we learned that not all things move on with us.

It took us a week to put twelve years into boxes of different sizes and importance.

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Last year, my father and sister went to Varanasi, as a walk down the memory lane and to get his driving license renewed. It was planned as a family trip. But I have learned over the years that not everyone wants to travel back to their past. In our family, it was my mother who did not want to do back, so I stayed with her. As a token, my father and sister visited most places that we had frequented as a family before – the river Ganges, the Goudaulia market, the Shivala ghat, the Kashi-Vishvanath temple, the house that we lived in, and the shops that ran our tabs in the neighbourhood. When I asked my sister what she thought about the city now, she said, the city had remained the same as we had left it. Of course, there were changes – new buildings were erected on old foundations, people we had known had died, the river looked older, and the markets were brighter. But the city was still the same and so were its stories. I believed her. After all, that is what all scriptures also say, Varanasi is an ancient city that defied time itself.